Even if your child has been in child care or preschool, the first day of “real” school can be exciting and scary. Getting your child off to a good start the first few weeks of school can help your child feel more positive about going to school in the future.

If your child is about to start school for the first time, you may find these ideas helpful.

• Visit the school a few times before the start of classes.

  Get to know the school on the weekend. A big, new school is less scary on a quiet Saturday or Sunday. Walk or drive the route your child will take, look at the playground, walk around the school, and even look into a window.

  Many schools have specific times when you can visit. This lets your child see the classroom, bathroom, and lunch area and meet the teacher before the first day of school. Ask for a school handbook and class schedule. Talk about school activities and rules with your child so he knows what to expect.

• Shop together for school shoes, clothing, and supplies.

  Let your child select his own backpack or lunch box and other supplies from the list given you by the school. Put the school supplies in the backpack together.

• Allow your child to feel scared about starting school.

  Do not try to dismiss or ignore your child’s feelings of fear. Tell your child that the teacher knows a lot about children, and will take very good care of him. Talk about the things your child will like about school. Talk about the feelings you had during your first day of school, and tell something funny or positive that happened to you.

• Prepare your child at home.

  Try to arrange to have your child meet a classmate before school starts. That way, your child will see a friendly face on the first day. You can relieve some anxiety by playing school at home. It also helps to talk about what will happen at school. Focus on things your child can look forward to, such as making new friends and learning new things. Talk about how your child will safely get to and from school. Talk to your child about what he is likely to do during the day and what you will be doing while your child is away. Tell your child what will happen once school is over for the day. Read books together about other children’s school experiences.

• Try not to make a big deal about the first day of school.

  Your child’s first day of school is a big day for you and for your child. If you seem nervous and upset, your child will also be nervous. If you seem calm and happy, your child will have a positive attitude toward school. Keep things upbeat and calm as she eats and gets ready for school.

• Start your child’s day with a healthy breakfast.

  A bowl of cereal or a waffle, some fruit, and milk is a great way to get your child’s body and brain in gear.

• Once at school, do not force your child to participate.

  Let your child get used to the new place. Some children would rather watch than take part in activities at first. Your child is likely to resist if you push too hard.

• Make your good-byes short and visible.

  If you take your child to the classroom, don’t sneak away while your child is doing an activity. Always say good-bye. When you say good-bye, act casual and upbeat. If your child protests, stay calm and let him know there is no other choice. Let your child know that you will see him at the end of the day. You may want to put a note in your child’s lunchbox or a sticker on his notebook that lets him know that you are thinking of him during the day.

• After school, ask about your child’s day.

  Ask questions such as “What happened at school. Did you make new friends? Did you have fun? What did you do?” Show special attention and affection. Let your child know that you are proud of him.