Adjusting to School

A little planning and encouragement goes a long way toward helping your child have a good attitude about school.

Show your child that learning is fun and natural.

  • Be a family that likes to learn. Visit a working farm, museum, zoo, radio or TV station, or the state capital. Ask questions and get your child’s opinion on different topics. Keep books, games, and projects around the house. Show your child that it’s fun to learn new and interesting things.
  • Point out that your child will make new friends at school.

Make sure your child gets enough sleep and eats a healthy diet.

  • Give your child a healthy breakfast each morning. Let your child make some lunch choices.
  • Set a bedtime routine so that your child gets 9 or 10 hours of sleep every night.

Get involved in your child’s school.

  • You and your child might want to meet and talk to your child’s teacher before school starts. Tell the teacher if your child loves dinosaurs, drawing, or taking care of a baby brother. This can help your child bond with his teacher and help the teacher know the best ways to help your child feel comfortable.
  • Have your child meet another classmate and arrange a play date before school starts.
  • If your child has problems with a certain subject, talk to the teacher about how you can help.
  • Join a parent-teacher organization or volunteer your time. This helps you share more of your child’s world.
  • Find out about school activities and if your child is interested in them.

Help your child get organized.

  • Arrange study space. Set aside an area in your home where your child can study. Provide a table or desk, good lighting, and school supplies. If possible, keep the study area far from tempting distractions like the TV.
  • Plan for the next day. Help your child get into the habit of organizing things. Check on clothes, backpack, lunch money, permission slips, and homework the night before. Note important dates. Buy a wall calendar with large boxes. If your child is too young to read or write, draw pictures for important school activities. Help an older child fill in dates of tests, when projects are due, field trips, and special events.

Help your child unwind once the school day is over.

  • Give your child one-on-one time every day. Give a hug and talk about the school day. Ask what happened and what your child learned. Listen for feelings of anger or fear as well as feelings of excitement and satisfaction. Ask about friends, trips on the school bus, and other parts of the school day, not just about studies.
  • Your child may say he hates a classmate one day but want to sit next to her in the lunchroom the next day. Don’t rush to try to solve your child’s problem. However, if your child seems worried or anxious, you may need to help. Talk with your child’s teacher to see if she has seen problems. If your child is being bullied or is not making friends, you may want to practice with your child to help him know what to do.
  • Encourage your child to let off steam through active outdoor play or sports.

Set up a homework routine.

  • Doing homework before or after dinner is a good habit for most children. While things may need to change sometimes, a set time each afternoon or evening for homework will help your child stay focused and get work done.
  • Help with homework, but do not do homework for your child. If you do the work, it keeps your child from learning the subject. It also keeps him from learning self-confidence.
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Pediatric Advisor 2015.1 published by RelayHealth.
Last modified: 2014-06-02
Last reviewed: 2014-05-30
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