Some children demand that their parents play with them all the time. When a parent is reading, watching TV, fixing her hair, or thinking, the child complains of boredom or sadness, or wants to be picked up. This is an example of invasion of parents’ rights, assuming the parent talks to the child and plays with the child at other times. Even parents of children age 1 to 2 can reasonably insist on several 15-minute blocks of personal time each day while the child is awake.
“Don’t interrupt me when I’m busy.”
First, redirect your child by stating, “I’m going to read the newspaper now. What are you going to do?” Suggest some toys. If your child keeps talking say, “I can’t listen now. We’ll play when I’m done with the newspaper.” If your child continues to talk or make demands, either ignore the child or make temporary use of time-out.
Praise your child for entertaining himself or herself.
Interrupting a Parent on the Telephone
“Don’t interrupt me when I’m on the telephone, because I can’t hear what the other person is saying.”
Redirect your child by giving him or her special toys to play with which you have saved for this situation and keep near the telephone. If your child continues to be disruptive, put the caller on hold (or hang up) and place your child in time-out. Then return to the telephone.
Praise your child for being quiet and waiting while you are on the telephone. Smile at your child while you are on the telephone.
Place most of your telephone calls during your child’s nap or after bedtime. Limit calls to less than 5 minutes when your child is awake.
When your child has friends over, you don’t interrupt them. Children don’t have the right to interrupt their parents’ friends. After an initial greeting and some brief attention, your child should not be allowed to crawl on guests or interrupt conversations.
“Don’t interrupt me when I’m talking to my friend, because it makes it hard for us to talk.”
For a younger child, distract him with special toys or games. For an older child, tell her she has to find something to do. If your child persists in interrupting, don’t feel guilty about sending her to her room or, if it’s near bedtime, to bed. Children should be able to take a back seat to guests. Other adults will approve of your insisting on this.
Praise your child for good behavior when guests are over.
Interrupting Family Conversations with Incessant Talking and Questioning
“Don’t talk when other people are talking. Don’t change the topic.” Although we like children to talk, they need to wait their turn if someone else is talking.
Ignore the child who is interrupting and continue your conversation with the other person. If the interruption continues, tell the child that you will be glad to talk with him when you are finished talking with the other person. Suggest he do something else for now. If he continues to be disruptive, send him to time-out.
Praise your child for not interrupting and for waiting.
Don’t interrupt other people, and listen carefully when they speak.
Written by Barton D. Schmitt, MD, author of â€œMy Child Is Sick,â€ American Academy of Pediatrics Books.
Pediatric Advisor 2015.1 published by RelayHealth. Last modified: 1995-11-07 Last reviewed: 2014-06-10
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